Effective communication - communication that really works

It is about getting better...

A son who just graduated from a prestigious grad school of business, was assigned by his father to lead and manage his construction company.    Months later the construction company was in shambles:    costs overrun, projects delayed.  The father investigated and found out that the cause was poor communications.  As a MBA grad and prestigious school grad, he practiced the civil and respectful communications.   However as I discovered early on  (we worked closely with contractors for road development and house counstruction) , communications with  construction workers is nearly just like a shouting match always.  A civil communication would not work. They would not listen   Communications with them has to be intense and forceful.

What do you think?

People skills, EI is important

It is about getting better...

Somebody is selling his/her book online regarding People Skills.   People with technical skills can not hope to improve climb up the organization unless their people skills improve.   Related to Michael  Gerber book on same topic.

Thus common examples:

     1.   You will have nice parking spot if you buy the parking attendant coffee;

     2.   The waiter in an event will give you best choices if you tip him/her generously up front (not after

            having a meal.

    3.    If you treat a food server badly, or say stewardess, she/he may spit on your drink or coffee

Success is people.  Deal with them well.  Thus "How to Win Frineds and Influence People"   is a good book

This post eleced to invest in real estate rather than educ plan for children's education

It is about getting better...

This post opted for investment in real estate rather than educ plan and did not regret this, for children's education.   At that time CAP was the in thing and many were selling me educ plan.   The most popular was headed by a batchmate in college -  Sobrepena.

It was more convenient and safer for me to manage my own assets.  My RE could appreciate, and I had option to sell or borrow from banks when the time comes  I was right in my decision.

Tuition and other school fees shot through the roof during Cory's time and many plans folded up.  (Just look at the OIC list -  they have only 8 surviving plan company out of hundreds at that time)

Did I make the right decision?  Can we right all the time?

We all live to uplift others; in the service of humanity

It is about getting better...

It was reported that there was a reunion sponsored by the eldest of my now deceased brother.  I was univited and thus did not attend.

The sponsor threw some bad unpalatable words to this quarter and does not deserve my respect.   As it usually happens in a clan where communication can get distorted.    However I tried my best to uplift the family economically and unfortunately this effort was not recognized. Without that effort, no such reunions are not feasible.  

God bless.  We all live in the service in the upliftment of others